Hey guys! It's 10pm over here, and I'm still waiting for my boyfriend to return home. His workload has been off the chain lately and I hardly see him some days. Always makes me wonder about life, and how we spend most of our lives doing things we don't like. From the moment we reach a certain age, we spend the largest time of our waking hours either in school or at work. We study our asses of to get a good job, and we want a good job to earn money so we can make the most out of our free time at home. The sad thing is that by striving for the means to live our lives in the nicest way possible, we let the time that is left to live that life dwindle away. That's messed up, right? I am not an ambitious person at all, and it always boggles my mind how weird other people's priorities are to me. I mean yeah, I love going to uni and learning new things, and work also has its perks on a social and personal development level, but I would be lying if I'd say I didn't look forward to my free days of doing whatever the hell I want, and the calm evenings at home with my loved ones. We spend the largest part of our lives wanting something else, yearning for those few hours of free time to do exactly what we want, when we want it.
HELL that is fucked up.
I'm usually a very happy person though. Being a woman in a man's society does have its upsides: at least WE aren't expected to work fulltime and strive for the highest possible professional position. We have the option, but we won't be considered losers or pussies if we choose not to.
See, I'm an optimist!
shorts (again, I know!): vintage Levis (T2)
blouse, flats: Zara (sales)
cardigan: H&M
cross ring: ASOS
buttercup ring: Alex Monroe
so jell you got those flats in the sale, i soo wanted them :( gorge :) x
ReplyDeletegorgeous outfit... the cardi looks so cosy! and my fav colour too.
ReplyDeleteAnd you ARE an optimist! on one hand i agree that women have an option, but poor men are forever doomed... (but i think they like working so hard, it's in their genes ;) ) but on the other hand i beg to differ as with all these feminist inclined women these days not only men have a masculinity complex but women are under pressure to compete and even outperform...
i study law but no way in hell a law firm will chose me over a guy! cause they think women want babies, and damn right... where would otherwise MEN come from? eh...
i can ramble about this for a long time... it's very sad... but good to be an optimist! i know i am... somewhere under that thick layer of cynicism.
btw, thanks for the lovely comments ;)
Love this outfit! And its so true...we work sooo hard just for a few days off a week...its crazy.... :( but I guess it all works out in the end...
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The third jumper in a week I want to steal from you!
ReplyDeleteThe thing that pisses me off is that we ARE expected to work fulltime and strive for the highest possible professional position, but it is way harder for us to attain the same salaries and promotions. It makes me MAD x
Love the cardigan and the blouse together, your jewellery is gorgeous too! x
ReplyDeletei love your shoe and ring dear ;) you really are amazing. I just followed you also here ;)
ReplyDeleteVery pretty. love the orange.
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You've definitely got to have your priorities in order - I love my work but I love my down more! The funny thing in my life is that I have the almost total reverse of a typical male/female relationship. I'm the breadwinner in my home (actually right now I support both of us) and my husband does the majority of the cooking and housework so that I can pursue my career. We always joke that he's my 50s housewife.
ReplyDeleteAnyways, more to the point, I love your comfy looking cardigan and leopard shoes (and the ginger kitty peeking into the photo is super cute).
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I love your cross ring and the cable-knit detail on the back of your cardigan!
ReplyDeleteIt took me putting up with two consecutive jobs for too long before I decided to stop doing what I hated and pursue both a passion and a strength: going back to school to finish my B.A! ...sometimes I think it would be super-fun to be a housewife though ;D Haha!
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I had to quit the job I went to graduate school for and spent tons of $ on because it just didn't make me happy. I was a professional, but I didn't feel like it was what I was supposed to be doing anymore. I quit and it was the best thing that has ever happened to me! I am working A LOT now, but it's only jobs I enjoy and allow me to be free of crushing responsibilities and able to meet new people like me more often.
ReplyDeleteBut serrrrriously I love the big orange sweater.
Amazing outfit! I love the colors and the mix of prints & textures. This went straight to my inspiration folder. :)
ReplyDelete-Tiffany
That is such a pretty blouse. And the color of the cardigan is super great.
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Superleuke outfit weeral! Ik ben sowieso fan van de schoenen! Heb jij een blogadres btw? Wilde je eens een mailtje sturen ivm iets (geheimzinnig! :)) Je mag altijd antwoorden op brunetteblogging@gmail.com.
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i love the outfit! I like the sweater, blouse, shorts and flats! everything basically. You look comfortable yet still stylish!
ReplyDeleteI totally agree,you always put pressure to achieve thing on life but, the simple thing are always the ones that make you feel happier. Anyway thanks for stoping on my blog :D i didnt knew that you have one, but now im Following!
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Hahaha, my first negative note in your comments, cherish it! I really don't like the shoes, but I can imagine you're not surprised by me saying this. Love the rest though, the cardi is awesome. OH and I did some greaaat vintageshopping myself yesterday in The kringloopwinkel, a gooorgeous formal coat and something I stole from you: A black velvetty skirt, really pretty! Every time I buy cheap vintage clothes I get so excited haha. Maybe I'll capture some pics with my neeeeeew camera, you heard it right, my neeeeew camera. Lol this post is way too personal :D I should be talking more about your post, snorry!
ReplyDeleteI'm a workaholic and perhaps TOO ambitious, so I actually enjoy working...IF I like what I'm doing, and that's a big if. Finding a career that you like can be hard, but I'm still convinced it can be done. Making a lot of money is always nice, but if you hate what you're doing to make it, I'd rather live humbly and enjoy all my waking hours to their fullest. Life's too short to do something you hate! I'm a bit of a feminist, so I NEVER think of myself as a woman in a man's world. I think of myself as just a person. Regardless of what society expects me to do, I expect MYSELF to work full time and strive for the highest possible professional position. But, I'm going to enjoy myself at the same time, too! Balance is the key.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, I'm LOVING your blouse, and I absolutely adore your Levis. I'm so excited to wear worn-in denim this spring and summer...it's effortless but looks put together at the same time!
P.S. Thanks so much for your sweet comment! I use a Canon Digital Rebel T2i. It's love!
Leuke blouse !
ReplyDeleteWow ik heb echt het gevoel alsof ik je blog stillaan aan het stalken ben :D
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Die cardigan is echt zo leuk! x
ReplyDeletelove it, the leopard flats are totally killer.
ReplyDeleteOh wow you have an Alex Munroe ring. Lucky you! I also like your chunky cardigan. x
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I laughed a little in reading your frustrations and then seeing your optimism too. hehe. too funny, you are. I hope the frustrations go away soon.
ReplyDeleteSo cute! Those loafers are amazing.
ReplyDeleteI read this yesterday on my phone and have been itching to respond but had no internet, anyway, first i really have a thing for that cardigan! i think i need an orange o/s cardi now.
ReplyDeleteand i completely agree about doing what we hate to do to make money for what we love. my mum is the perfect example of doing stuff she doesnt want to and never anything she wants, like she'll say oh i have to sweep the floors before my friend gets here, oh and i better do this too even if i dont want to, and feels guilty relaxing! im the opposite, id much rather work a little and play a lot and enjoy my life before i have children and such to support and even then id still rather enjoy them then pressure myself to return to work!! anyway, its been on my mind for so long cos this is something im always talking about (esp to my mother dearest cos she's always at me for not working enough ha!)
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I really think the same as you in this case! It's so fucked up to study and study and study, just du get a great job and then to work, work, work to get more money than you can spend, 'cause you actually have no freetime and then to die. This is shit. I want to live my life and friend family and love are def. my priorities. A good job is just a good add, to get some ego boost, but it shouldn't be the only important in your life.
ReplyDeleteEeeh great outfit btw :D love your crossed-ring!
gorgeous chiffon blouse.
ReplyDeleteI'm blessed to have a well paying job that I love going to everyday and have a store owner that gives me 100% freedom of expression. Mine and my husbands goal in life is to run our own vintage store (clothing, vinyl, ect), do photography, live/run a small farm, and be as self sufficient as possible. I don't want to work for anyone and I don't need to be rich. It seems the way to do things.
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love your shoes and blouse.
ReplyDeleteI spend nine hours of my time working at the office. It's really getting boring sometimes. Monotony is sweet and numbing. work,play, and vice versa. I guess what keeps me going are the people I am with. Without them, I probably killed myself out of boredom.
love your shoes and blouse.
ReplyDeleteI spend nine hours of my time working at the office. It's really getting boring sometimes. Monotony is sweet and numbing. work,play, and vice versa. I guess what keeps me going are the people I am with. Without them, I probably killed myself out of boredom.
I read this yesterday on my phone and have been itching to respond but had no internet, anyway, first i really have a thing for that cardigan! i think i need an orange o/s cardi now.
ReplyDeleteand i completely agree about doing what we hate to do to make money for what we love. my mum is the perfect example of doing stuff she doesnt want to and never anything she wants, like she'll say oh i have to sweep the floors before my friend gets here, oh and i better do this too even if i dont want to, and feels guilty relaxing! im the opposite, id much rather work a little and play a lot and enjoy my life before i have children and such to support and even then id still rather enjoy them then pressure myself to return to work!! anyway, its been on my mind for so long cos this is something im always talking about (esp to my mother dearest cos she's always at me for not working enough ha!)
xo
I really think the same as you in this case! It's so fucked up to study and study and study, just du get a great job and then to work, work, work to get more money than you can spend, 'cause you actually have no freetime and then to die. This is shit. I want to live my life and friend family and love are def. my priorities. A good job is just a good add, to get some ego boost, but it shouldn't be the only important in your life.
ReplyDeleteEeeh great outfit btw :D love your crossed-ring!