Thinspo

I've had an interaction on my Tumblr about the thinspo and selfharm pictures that have been flooding my feed. I have a habit of following back everyone that follows me on Tumblr, so I ended up following girls that reblogged pictures like this one:

along with a comment like "I wish my legs looked like this". I cannot comprehend why no one replies to these kinds of posts, expressing how disturbing this is. So I did reply, and this is what I sent into the Tumbler universe:

"Why is tumblr filled with girls reblogging things like this? You DON’T want legs like these, because if you had legs like these it would probably hurt just to walk around. You need fat to protect your body. Just wearing shoes might PERMANENTLY damage your feet. Saying you want legs like these basically like saying you want cancer.

Insecurity won’t go away when you look like a walking corpse. Body diversity is beautiful, and you are more than your looks."

One of my followers, Charlotte, replied: 

@stylingdutchman
"You are so amazing. Thank god for people like you saying things like this."

To which I replied:

":) I’m just trying to make a tiny difference. Don’t know if I will, but I can try. It breaks my heart to see girls reblogging this, or pictures of self harm. Why doesn’t anyone speak up or console these girls? I remember that age where, when someone tells you looks aren’t everything, you just think to yourself “yeah, that’s easy to say when you’re gorgeous yourself” or “yeah right, the ugly girl’s way to make herself feel better”. But it’s not like that at all.

Just look at yourself as your best friend: would you hate your best friend if she didn’t look like a barbiedoll, but rather just like a cool individual? Or your boyfriend: did you fall for his perfect abs or for his PERSONALITY?

You need to be your own best friend, love yourself for who you are, praise the things that make you unique rather than trying to fit a ridiculous mold. Why the hell would anyone deserve hate because they aren’t sickly skinny? Just as bad as racism, sexism or gay-hate. Just because your hate is geared at your own person doesn’t make it right.

I’m not saying that eating disorders are easy. I’m not saying you can just turn an affliction like that on or off just by reading some random girl’s thoughts. But I can only do what I can do, and that is voicing my acceptance of every individual, and my love for their unique shapes. And I hope these people get help."

I'm posting this on my blog because I want to reach all my readers. I accept you guys, every little wrinkle, fat roll, hair in unwanted places, lack of boobs: whatever.  These things do not matter, and they shouldn't control your life. YOU should be in control, and choose which things you allow to control you. I hope this helps someone. Or rather: I hope this helps someone help themselves.

dress: second hand

shoes: don't remember

sheer tights, coat: H&M

headband: don't remember

PS: I'm not 100% sure about this coat with this dress, but some girls suggested wearing leopard with bright colors when I posted my conundrum (somehow I find leopard very hard to style), so I just went ahead and tried it. I'll need to keep looking though :(