You Can't Argue With Taste

Two things in store for my lovely readers today: an outfit (tried colorblocking again) and an opinion! Let's start with my 'fit. Take note of my experimental two tone lips: pink op top and orange on the bottom! Still relatively wearable, no? I'm not entirely convinced this colorblocking trend will ever really be my thing, but when I pulled out this dress I wanted to go for a very summery look so pairing it with lots of colors seemed obvious. Besides, keeping the colorblocking subtle in my accessories and make up makes it a lot less "OH HAI LOOK AT ME I'M A BOX OF CRAYONS".

dress: T2 vintage
shoes: Sacha
necklace: Pimkie
nails: red-Hema, orange-Catrice, yellow: H&M, green-Catrice, blue-H&M


Now, for the opinion.


I think some of you might remember my post about the "hate comment" I got a little while ago? Now don't worry, this isn't one of those "I'm so sad please tell me I'm amazing" posts, bare with me! The girl that left me that comment sent me an email too a few days later in response of the post I dedicated to the "incident" to tell me she didn't mean to hurt me in any way and was just trying to set me on the right fashion track. According to her I still had a lot of growing up to do, stylewise, and I needed to get a grip on real style instead of fluttering about and trying so hard. She wasn't that specific on what she meant with that real style, but the thing that got me thinking when reading her email was her comment about trying to help me along on the way to finding what flattered me. 

Let's be clear here: my post is NOT about hate comments or anything like that. Please keep reading!

I have been blogging about fashion for almost two years now and I have considered myself to be "into fashion" for almost as long as I can remember. When I was younger and more of a rookie to both fashion and life in general, I never blinked an eye at all the make-over programs on TV. I was an avid Trinny and Susannah fan, shaking my head at every fashion faux-pas that passed my allknowing glance. That top with that skirt? HELLZ to the no. Wearing a crop top when you're an apple shape? GURL plz find a mirror nao.

I was clueless.

Let me get to my point: I have grown into style existentialism. What is style anyway? How could anyone tell another person they look like crap when fashion is fickle as a 15 year old's lovelife? As we all know, c/o Heidi Klum, in fashion, one day you're in, next day you're out. So where does someone get the authority to decide what works and what doesn't? How do we reach a societal consensus on what is acceptable, and what isn't? 

It might be possible to create some sort of objective standard. One might for example use "would my non-fashionisto neighbour think I was bonkers if he saw me wearing this in the street?" as a measuring device. However, where does that leave style icons like Kate Moss, or even our pretty preachers Trinny and Susannah? I'm rather sure most "normal" people wouldn't be too sold on these outfits.

OK sure, neither am I, but that was a few years ago and that boho fashion was totally hip back then so she probably had the bulk of the in crowd cooing over her footwear. 

Get my point? What is considered fun and fashionable, or even FLATTERING one day by one person, will be written off as ridiculous and fug by another person another day, or in some cases even the same person the same day, depending on the judged subject. And even if I would admit to some universal notion of "flatteringness" (not a word, I know): why is it our number one commandment as women to look our best at any given time? Why do we NEED to dress to flatter our shapes? Surely, there are times when a woman's priority lies elsewhere than in the field of being sexy or attractive? Telling people they should look their best ANYTIME, regardless of their own views on life, just makes no sense at all and basically makes you a style nazi on a good day and a supporter of male chauvinism if I have my feminism hat on.

What I'm getting at is: unless you stick to Jennifer Aniston's fashion 101 (only rule: don't wear color, print, sleeves or anything that doesn't show of your hot bod) you will probably be an assault on some people's eyes. After all, fashion makes no fucking sense at all. Style is completely subjective, and I refuse to be limited in my freedom to dress however I want by random rules that don't have any authority whatsoever and will probably be different next week anyway.

Unless someone would actively seek me out to ask my advice on something fashion/style-related, I will not force my own opinion down their throats. So yeah, Trinny and Susannah are mostly off the hook because a lot of their subjects feel bad about their appearance and ask for help themselves, BUT STILL! Tread your stylishly clad feet carefully, ladies. Just because you and your posse feel like you have dibs on style, doesn't mean you own it. Everybody has their own style, and there is no such thing as inferior/superior style. There is only preference, and it makes no sense to dress according to any preference but your own. 

And maybe your boyfriend's on special occasions.


PS: just because my style doesn't let itself be pinpointed in three words doesn't mean I don't have style. Maybe I just have styleS! HA! A multifaceted personality is mirrored in a multifaceted style, amirite? That makes me a free spirit, not a trendwhore. And judging other people is NEVER in style. Peace out.

86 comments

  1. I agree with the fact that style is very subjective. Trinny & Susannah aren't really fashionable in my opinion, they just want to dress people according to their size/shape. That's the only thing you can actually advice/tell people to do when it comes to what they should/should not wear. Even if you're super pretty, but not that tall, a midi skirt won't look as good on you as it does on a tall girl. For me, it's more about finding the items that suit you and your style + your shape and figure.

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  2. I'm not really a tall girl and I think I look fine in midiskirts, it's more about proportions than about being tall or short in my opinion. However, even the notion of flattering or not is really subjective and fickle! Fashion in the 80s for example is ridiculous when you put it in today's society: those huge shoulder things (can't think of the name) were considered flattering back then, but now? Not so much. Anyway, as long as a woman feels crappy about the way she looks and as long as she wants help herself: YES it is 100% ok to help her find her way! But when someone doesn't look hot to your standards, even though she loves her look herself, it makes no sense whatsoever to judge her or force your opinion on her. That's my take on the issue :)

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  3. I totally agree. I like to wear lots of stuff that I think is probably not that flattering, but makes me happy. In that vein, I like being asked my opinion, but don't think it's nice to tell someone something's not flattering unless they are asking for my advice. Even though people do pay me for my advice, and my blog is attached to my business,I don't like to do "what NOT to do" lists, and try to be as positive as possible. Because it is all subjective, and I think everyone should be able to wear what they like!

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  4. Oh dear, first I have to comment on the outfit, it's amazing! I love the dress and yes, colour blocking with accessories is so much better and effortless than a bunch of different coloured items together. And, your the queen of the midi look girl! Fierce!!

    Now, onto the style rambling, I think you said it all with this: "Everybody has their own style, and there is no such thing as inferior/superior style. There is only preference, and it makes no sense to dress according to any preference but your own. And maybe your boyfriend's on special occasions." -> Couldn't have said it better, and the boyfriend part left me LOL, it's completely true ;)

    I wish I could write like you so please keep being this amazing so you can inspire me more and more.

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  5. you look wonderful! that dress looks really good on you :)

    http://sarassweetstyle.blogspot.com/

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  6. Laurel: YES I HATE what not to wear lists! keep it positive, people. Negative lists are ridiculous and make you sound like a woman-hating fashion magazine :D

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  7. Oh and I think it's funny that someone would think it was her job to "set you on the right fashion track." I wonder how many bloggers she offers her assistance to :)

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  8. You are sooo right!! Okay rewind, first of all: THAT DRESS LOOKS AMAZING!! Too bad its vintage or I would definitely get the same one :)

    I'm shopping in Antwerp next Saturday btw :)

    I agree with you, who is anyone to tell you what to do/wear/say... fashion is about freedom!! And okay... maybe they can say what they think... but they aren't allowed to be just negative... how is that ever helpfull!! I love most of your looks, so yes: you do have style(s) ;) (for the record: I just see one style and it is called: Annebeth... seriously I can pick your thumbnail out of the style gallery any day)

    xxx

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  9. Angie: that's probably because of my never varying background! :D but thank you <3 I'm never in the city on a weekend though :( I want to see you again soon!

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  10. Haha - I like this post! It made me smile. I think it makes an excellent point. Plus I don't know who decided that a person's style has to be consistent. One day I will wear a pretty dress and heels to class and the next day I will wear a Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle tank top and skinny jeans. I don't think that means I don't have style, just that I like to have fun with clothes.

    P.S. That dress is awesome! Love the color!

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  11. Love this outfit!!
    And sooo true, style is so subjective. Even my own style changes depending on the day, but that doesn't mean I don't have style. And you DEFINITELY have style. When I see you in your outfits if the face was cut off I would still know its you
    http://www.closet-fashionista.com/

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  12. Amazing dress! That colour looks great on you

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  13. I love the dress, the colour is gorgeous and looks great on you. The length is so great too.
    I completely agree, theres a difference I try to explain to my man. There are women who dress for men (those who to try to flaunt what they got and are figure flattering) and women who dress for other women and themselves. In that other ladies interested in fashion will understand something that may look slightly awkward and think it's wonderful. It's about experimenting with fashion and trying new things.
    xJennaD

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  14. I agree, style is totally subjective, and there are so many types of style! Also, I love what you did with your lips, totes creative, and I love the pleating of your dress, and the color of it. CUTIE

    Cheers!
    --Megan//The Martian Tide

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  15. reason why i love you 101 right there. if you didn't have style then you wouldnt have 614 ;) amazing followers and lots of fans on zee ol chictopia where you are a STYLE ICON!! some people take fashion way too seriously, i love that you are adventurous and push the boundaries with what you wear. its only clothes after all? keep having fun with fashion my dear its what makes you YOU! oh and i also want me nails like that.

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  16. Very well written!! Fashion is about as subjective as art. People wear what they wear because it makes them feel good.

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  17. What great post!!! I couldn't agree more with every word!!

    Lidi @ Eclectic Flair

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  18. So glad i stumbled across your amazing blog via twitch vintage.. i will be stalking it in the future!

    http://www.anticsofthemoon-blog.com/

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  19. I read the entire post...first I will comment on your insanely color-filled look. I currently am rocking rainbow toes (except my big toes are hot pink not red). I am loving this dress and it reminds me of a vintage dress i have yet to wear in my closet.

    As far as the "style" question at hand, I completely agree with you. I have worn some things that people would say I shouldn't. I wear high waist shorts and I have a short torso. I wear low rise shorts when I have belly fat. However, I know what I like and how to style it where I feel confident in it. I love high waist shorts because they usually act as a corset for me, and give me a little more booty sometimes lol. I'll wear all thrifted items in one look because I like how it looks together. I am plus size and rock bandage mini skirts, shorts, and short dresses, showing off my thick thighs. But I wear what I love and like. Fashion is not set in stone. Fashion and style is in the eye of the beholder.

    Sarah Jane R.
    www.sarahjanerstyle.com

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  20. Oh I so love this post! That's why I love personal style blogging, anything goes! It is the one place where I feel I can truly wear anything and have it be embraced. Also, you have style and it is AMAZING!

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  21. I totally agree with you! That's how I feel about life in general though... why judge?

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  22. I think that the red and turquoise is stunning, and they look like you, which is the whole point, right? You dress like you and that's the only thing that matters. You look lovely and comfortable in your own skin and that is the best style.

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  23. You are the best Annebeth! I couldn't agree with you more, one of my favorite things about personal style is that it's like our moods, it changes every day and even every minute! So, we should wear whatever we want basically not go off of just fashion, like a midi, maxi dress, etc? Who even knew what the heck that was 10 years ago but women have always been wearing long dresses. Anyway, love you and love your dress!

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  24. I totally have the twin of your dress, mine has a different neckline and sleeves but the silhouette and colour are very similar! They must be from the same era: http://thriftaholic.blogspot.com/2010/07/yesterday-i-finally-got-my-hair-cut-id.html

    Also, I pretty much operate outside the bounds of fashion at this point... I buy what I love and looks good on my shape. Your photos always showing you looking so confident, I think your choices are inspiring!

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  25. oooh that dress is stunning...the colour is gorgeous. what is this t2 vintage??! you get the most wonderful dresses and its making me incredibly jealous!
    I totally agree with what you've written..its YOUR body and you can dress it however you want and this is your blog to share your own style. i got told the other day that i probably should stop wearing maxi skirts and dresses because they make me look too short...i know it wasnt meant to be bitchy and was just "advice" but i seriously hate all that dressing for your body type...it is literally the one thing i dont think about when getting dressed..sure i may whack on a pair of high heels from time to time but not because I should, but because i want to. Wear what makes you happy....anything goes! :)

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  26. "send you on the right fashion track": there is nothing more subjective than fashion. you do not have the same fashion track as me, but let me tell you: you are doing a damn good job regarding to your fashion track.

    but i do think there are some rules: like a good bra, it is really crucial. or be careful with summer shoes, they can easily look to heavy. it is not about style, it is about science. some things do make you look shorter... I would never ever consider myself as a style guru because it is so easy to make mistakes.

    I think you have posted the most difficult question in fashion: this is what fascinates me. how come all in a sudden we see the same fashion trends on the catwalk, so all in a sudden different designers have the same ideas??? like T&S. it is all about bras but Trinny isn't always wearing the right one. and i think Susannah her clothes are sometimes too tight. but they are right about one thing: please do take care of your appearances, it is oh so crucial and it makes the world so much more beautiful.

    PS love love the blue dress because of the movement and the delicate fabric. and you know i am a fan of those patent leather shoes

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  27. beautiful dress!i just love the colour :)

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  28. I totally agree with you!!! That's how I feel about life in general. Who has the power to judge?
    http://chiccastyle.blogspot.com/

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  29. Ok first... love the blue dress, and realllly love the two-toned lips! Awesome idea, although I would eat mine off before it ever got into a photo. ; D

    I actually agree with basically everything here. (Sorry not to be your lone voice of discontent, or whatever). I always found Trini and Susanna really frustrating, because who were they to be tossing out people's favourite ugly sweaters? I do think there are improvements to be made in a lot of people's style, because, as you say, not everybody is dressing in a way that makes them happy.

    I think I look at many things from the point of view that you have to know the rules to break them (i.e. you know that flatteringness is not a word, which makes it okay that you use it anyway. I know that not every midi skirt is going to be flattering, or at least the current generation's idea of flattering, but I make sure I find that one that passes. And there are lots of days when all the rules need a big fat middle finger pointed in their direction, and we all just need to go for a walk in our pyjamas and not give a damn. The end. ; D

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  30. I know it's cliche, but what's important is that you like what you're wearing and feel good about it.

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  31. That is my FAV COLOUR EVER. Love the colour combo. Love the dress.

    I think your style is fun, fresh, pretty, interesting and inspirational. I'd rather raid your wardrobe than Jennifer Anniston'.

    As potty-mouth Gwenyth says: "F&*% the haters!"

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  32. great post, i completely agree with everything you said. wear what is flattering and makes you feel happy, if someone doesnt like it, who cares!

    ps this dress is absolutely amazing <3shelby

    www.makemesparkly.blogspot.com

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  33. First, I am in love with the two tone lipstick. It's such a great idea.
    I think people should dress to please themselves. There are times when you need to dress to please others but those are far more infrequent. Most of the time I don't "flatter my body" but I feel much happier in a fifties or sixties style dress than what most people think looks good on me,jeans and a tee. I think fashion should be about fun first.

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  34. Fashion is mental. At the end of the day, if I feel good in what I'm wearing, then I will wear it, thank you very much. I think there's nothing wrong in having your own style rules (like, there are certain fabrics or shapes I dislike), but there's no need to force them on anyone else.
    And I quite agree about having styles in the multiple. Clothes are FUN, why limit yourself to one 'look'?

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  35. I for one, love what you do, how you do it, and everything else. I read the comment when it happened and already thought it really made little sense, in the sense that for what one person is flawless style, for others will be rubbish. That comment you go was completely subjective, one person's opinion. That same person could be one of those who write the "how not to wear" columns in a mag, and again, it's their own opinion, and as far as that, it's a limited one. I believe in playing with fashion. Fashion is mostly superficial, and sooo materialistic, but it's a funny toy, a great way to express oneself, a fantastic way to have a certain identity one day and a different one the other.

    Stick to having fun with clothes and you will have your own style, that yes, some will like others won't. But that's just the natural state of things in the fashion world

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  36. From what I've seen on here, you have fantastic style! I'm a big believer in wearing whatever makes you happy, to hell with what other people think. There will always be judgmental people out there, but if you're being yourself, who cares?

    Also, this dress is such a beautiful color and I really like the 2 toned lips!

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  37. There are so many ways I could say I like this post... but i must compliment the outfit first and foremost and the way you styled it! it's definitely color blocking Annebeth style and I love it. As far as the fashion sense text... i agree that style is subjective and personal. Trends and fashion are seasonal and that makes it fun. It's like you are your own coloring book and you have a new set of crayons to color with every season! (i have a daughter, pardon the childish reference! haha)

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  38. I think you have such fantastic style. I look at your style as an inspiration, to be honest. You always look gorgeous, and you know how to play with color and neutrals. I completely agree with you that while some may love the way you look and your fashion sense, others will not. It is just the way the world works. Not everyone likes everything. If you are happy, and you like the way you look, then that is all that matters. Girl, you are an absolutely beautiful person (inside & out!), that's all there is to it! :)

    xo

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  39. Oh I love the dress! I have one in pretty much the same colour and I love it to bits. I really dig the colour of those sandals too. I think the two-tone lips are fun! You can't tell too much from afar but it's a fun little detail up close.

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  40. that dress is a fab color and i love the pleats of it!

    <3 steffy
    Steffys Pros and Cons

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  41. Mooi jurkje! Heb overlaatst eentje gekocht in dezelfde kleur :D x

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  42. such a brilliant dress.
    the colour is simply perfect!
    xx



    themerrimari.blogspot.com

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  43. That whole outfit is just killer on you! Bravo!

    I love the fact you put pink and orange lipsticks together! It worked really well :)
    -Jules

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  44. word Sister.

    Honestly, people who pass style judgement exhaust me. Yes, I read and blog fashion but I don't make it my life's work. I'll be honest with you, not every outfit you've posted has been my favorite, but your body of work is impressive. You don't censor your style or your words to accommodate others. You post everyday. You give us the full disclosure. That takes a lot and I respect it.

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  45. I totally agree with everything that you said about style, I totally feel the same way. I feel as though fashion has become more like a serial number cloning kind of fashion. Like, color blocking, everyone is doing it the same way, that is where imagination plays a good role. I wear what I wear because it makes me feel comfortable, sometimes I can't wear what 'flatters' me simply because it is not comfortable all the time ( like in that time of the month when I am so bloated like a puff fish and I don't feel like wearing stuff that shows off my curves, because instead it would show off my bloatedness) so I choose something comfy to wear!

    Anywho, you look gorgeous and I love the combination of colors that you created here!

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  46. i love these colors together!!

    AMEN! the nerve of some people seriously! as with everyone else, i completely agree. people have different takes on style, no two people have the exact same style (well, maybe sometimes but that's not the point haha). i hate how people try to "define" style, but honestly, who really can? style is as subjective as you can get!

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  47. Firstly, that dress looks amazing, and i love how you make the colourblock trend your own!

    This is such an inspiring post, Annebeth. To summarise, I pretty much agree with you! haha :) xx

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  48. That is really such a fabulous dress! The color is so Spring and looks so good on you! Love how you paired it with those yummy shoes!! Great look!

    www.plentyforpennies.com

    Follow each other?

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  49. Love the colors in the dress and outfit, I'm thoroughly enjoying those sandals. And really there is no right or wrong to style, that girls has it wrong.

    Missed you, sorry for being so absent as of late!

    huggles, Lauren

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  50. I definitely believe that everyone's ideals of fashion are different from person to person. I love your fashion though! hehe. The two-tone lips. . not my thing but it is cute and YOU!!! I love the shoes by the way!

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  51. Hi fellow Chictopian!

    I am in love with this gorgeous dress!
    I followed you dear!
    I hope you can visit my new blog!:)

    http://mestizay.blogspot.com/

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  52. Such a dream dress. I always looking for such a piece for years.
    I really don't like people who think they are the fashion bibles itself. How ridiculous is that?! Taste and fashion are so subjective.
    But I had to admit that I really care about what others think of my outfit..I'm still on my way to dress uo just for myself and I think I gained so much self confidence during the past years but I'm still learning to feel comfortable in wearing things I like.

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  53. Beautiful dress :) Love those shoes with your painted nails :)

    I've never really followed fashion although reading fashion blogs has changed that somewhat (you can't help but pick up what's "in" when all the bloggers start craving it :D).

    I just so dislike that the exact same thing can be perceived as great one year and a "faux pas" the next. Either you like it or you don't. I wish people would make up their own minds rather than spout other people's opinions.

    As far as I am concerned fashion is not solely what's going on on the run way but also what is going on on the streets. All equally valid. We all have to decide for ourselves which outfits/trends we like and who to take inspiration from.

    That said, it is totally your fault I am wearing nail polish right now :D

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  54. The turquoise, the purple, the red...it looks fabulous!

    How strange that we both posted on Trinny and Susannah. You're dead right - there's a fine line between helping someone 'find their way' and claiming to have some monopoly on style. Fashion should never be so prescriptive. I'm nominating this post for Beautifully Invisible's Link Love with a Twist...

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  55. die jurk is geweldig! ben er helemaal verliefd op!

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  56. It's hard to debate about style because everyone's personalities and opinions are different. We like to easily label someone as having a "bad style" because it looks atrocious to our eyes. I'm pretty open-minded to other people's styles since I wouldn't like someone bashing me for having not liking what I wear. Wear what you want! As long as you don't look like you're about to go to a striptease club, it's fine!

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  57. As I said on chictopia, I LOVE your dress. :)

    As for style and taste... the world would be boring if everyone conformed to what others thought they should wear. I personally think, for the girl who commented and emailed you, that this is your own style blog and it's not up to her to "guide" you, because you didn't ask for it. Your style is you, not her.

    The only thing I would ever critique someone else on would be if the fit is so absolutely unflattering that it did them no justice at all. Even then, though...if they love it, good for them for being confident enough to wear what they want to wear! Style isn't about being like everyone else. The true style icons are so unique that the world takes notice. They're NOT like everyone else, and that's kind of the point.

    And there are outfits that I see and would never, ever wear and would hate on someone else, but on a certain person they're fabulous... because that person is expressing him/herself and not trying to please everyone else.

    I think this comment is long enough. I hope it all made sense. ;) You're one of my favorite fashion bloggers, dear, and I'm glad to know that you won't change just because someone thinks you should. Don't ever stop being yourself!

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  58. Superb and insightful. Hmm, that email woman was rather arrogant, wasn't she?

    I often find when teaching poetry/drama something happens that reflects many creative things (such as fashion) and how they develop: not knowing the rules, discovering the rules, flying beyond the rules. And often, arrogant people who have just discovered the rules try to preach at those who are in the third phase.

    Unfortunately with clothing this tends to take place through magazines and T&S-style-DON'T DOOOO DAT nonsense.

    I own my own style: they own theirs. Each to their own- confidence and happiness are what allow the 'wrong' thing to work. And what do 'thou shalt nots' wear down at? Confidence and happiness. So people keep buying the mags and following the herd.

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  59. Love your take on color-blocking and LOVE your take on fashion. I totally agree...fashion is what you make of it style is all your own and no one really has any place barking up tree that's not theirs.

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  60. It's hard to debate about style because everyone's personalities and opinions are different. We like to easily label someone as having a "bad style" because it looks atrocious to our eyes. I'm pretty open-minded to other people's styles since I wouldn't like someone bashing me for having not liking what I wear. Wear what you want! As long as you don't look like you're about to go to a striptease club, it's fine!

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  61. The turquoise, the purple, the red...it looks fabulous!

    How strange that we both posted on Trinny and Susannah. You're dead right - there's a fine line between helping someone 'find their way' and claiming to have some monopoly on style. Fashion should never be so prescriptive. I'm nominating this post for Beautifully Invisible's Link Love with a Twist...

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  62. Such a dream dress. I always looking for such a piece for years.
    I really don't like people who think they are the fashion bibles itself. How ridiculous is that?! Taste and fashion are so subjective.
    But I had to admit that I really care about what others think of my outfit..I'm still on my way to dress uo just for myself and I think I gained so much self confidence during the past years but I'm still learning to feel comfortable in wearing things I like.

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  63. I definitely believe that everyone's ideals of fashion are different from person to person. I love your fashion though! hehe. The two-tone lips. . not my thing but it is cute and YOU!!! I love the shoes by the way!

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  64. that dress is a fab color and i love the pleats of it!

    <3 steffy
    Steffys Pros and Cons

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  65. Love the colors in the dress and outfit, I'm thoroughly enjoying those sandals. And really there is no right or wrong to style, that girls has it wrong.

    Missed you, sorry for being so absent as of late!

    huggles, Lauren

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  66. I think you have such fantastic style. I look at your style as an inspiration, to be honest. You always look gorgeous, and you know how to play with color and neutrals. I completely agree with you that while some may love the way you look and your fashion sense, others will not. It is just the way the world works. Not everyone likes everything. If you are happy, and you like the way you look, then that is all that matters. Girl, you are an absolutely beautiful person (inside & out!), that's all there is to it! :)

    xo

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  67. I for one, love what you do, how you do it, and everything else. I read the comment when it happened and already thought it really made little sense, in the sense that for what one person is flawless style, for others will be rubbish. That comment you go was completely subjective, one person's opinion. That same person could be one of those who write the "how not to wear" columns in a mag, and again, it's their own opinion, and as far as that, it's a limited one. I believe in playing with fashion. Fashion is mostly superficial, and sooo materialistic, but it's a funny toy, a great way to express oneself, a fantastic way to have a certain identity one day and a different one the other.

    Stick to having fun with clothes and you will have your own style, that yes, some will like others won't. But that's just the natural state of things in the fashion world

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  68. First, I am in love with the two tone lipstick. It's such a great idea.
    I think people should dress to please themselves. There are times when you need to dress to please others but those are far more infrequent. Most of the time I don't "flatter my body" but I feel much happier in a fifties or sixties style dress than what most people think looks good on me,jeans and a tee. I think fashion should be about fun first.

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  69. great post, i completely agree with everything you said. wear what is flattering and makes you feel happy, if someone doesnt like it, who cares!

    ps this dress is absolutely amazing <3shelby

    www.makemesparkly.blogspot.com

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  70. I know it's cliche, but what's important is that you like what you're wearing and feel good about it.

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  71. I totally agree with you!!! That's how I feel about life in general. Who has the power to judge?
    http://chiccastyle.blogspot.com/

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  72. beautiful dress!i just love the colour :)

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  73. "send you on the right fashion track": there is nothing more subjective than fashion. you do not have the same fashion track as me, but let me tell you: you are doing a damn good job regarding to your fashion track.

    but i do think there are some rules: like a good bra, it is really crucial. or be careful with summer shoes, they can easily look to heavy. it is not about style, it is about science. some things do make you look shorter... I would never ever consider myself as a style guru because it is so easy to make mistakes.

    I think you have posted the most difficult question in fashion: this is what fascinates me. how come all in a sudden we see the same fashion trends on the catwalk, so all in a sudden different designers have the same ideas??? like T&S. it is all about bras but Trinny isn't always wearing the right one. and i think Susannah her clothes are sometimes too tight. but they are right about one thing: please do take care of your appearances, it is oh so crucial and it makes the world so much more beautiful.

    PS love love the blue dress because of the movement and the delicate fabric. and you know i am a fan of those patent leather shoes

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  74. I totally have the twin of your dress, mine has a different neckline and sleeves but the silhouette and colour are very similar! They must be from the same era: http://thriftaholic.blogspot.com/2010/07/yesterday-i-finally-got-my-hair-cut-id.html

    Also, I pretty much operate outside the bounds of fashion at this point... I buy what I love and looks good on my shape. Your photos always showing you looking so confident, I think your choices are inspiring!

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  75. You are the best Annebeth! I couldn't agree with you more, one of my favorite things about personal style is that it's like our moods, it changes every day and even every minute! So, we should wear whatever we want basically not go off of just fashion, like a midi, maxi dress, etc? Who even knew what the heck that was 10 years ago but women have always been wearing long dresses. Anyway, love you and love your dress!

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  76. I totally agree with you! That's how I feel about life in general though... why judge?

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  77. Oh I so love this post! That's why I love personal style blogging, anything goes! It is the one place where I feel I can truly wear anything and have it be embraced. Also, you have style and it is AMAZING!

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  78. I read the entire post...first I will comment on your insanely color-filled look. I currently am rocking rainbow toes (except my big toes are hot pink not red). I am loving this dress and it reminds me of a vintage dress i have yet to wear in my closet.

    As far as the "style" question at hand, I completely agree with you. I have worn some things that people would say I shouldn't. I wear high waist shorts and I have a short torso. I wear low rise shorts when I have belly fat. However, I know what I like and how to style it where I feel confident in it. I love high waist shorts because they usually act as a corset for me, and give me a little more booty sometimes lol. I'll wear all thrifted items in one look because I like how it looks together. I am plus size and rock bandage mini skirts, shorts, and short dresses, showing off my thick thighs. But I wear what I love and like. Fashion is not set in stone. Fashion and style is in the eye of the beholder.

    Sarah Jane R.
    www.sarahjanerstyle.com

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  79. What great post!!! I couldn't agree more with every word!!

    Lidi @ Eclectic Flair

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  80. reason why i love you 101 right there. if you didn't have style then you wouldnt have 614 ;) amazing followers and lots of fans on zee ol chictopia where you are a STYLE ICON!! some people take fashion way too seriously, i love that you are adventurous and push the boundaries with what you wear. its only clothes after all? keep having fun with fashion my dear its what makes you YOU! oh and i also want me nails like that.

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  81. Love this outfit!!
    And sooo true, style is so subjective. Even my own style changes depending on the day, but that doesn't mean I don't have style. And you DEFINITELY have style. When I see you in your outfits if the face was cut off I would still know its you
    http://www.closet-fashionista.com/

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  82. Angie: that's probably because of my never varying background! :D but thank you <3 I'm never in the city on a weekend though :( I want to see you again soon!

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  83. You are sooo right!! Okay rewind, first of all: THAT DRESS LOOKS AMAZING!! Too bad its vintage or I would definitely get the same one :)

    I'm shopping in Antwerp next Saturday btw :)

    I agree with you, who is anyone to tell you what to do/wear/say... fashion is about freedom!! And okay... maybe they can say what they think... but they aren't allowed to be just negative... how is that ever helpfull!! I love most of your looks, so yes: you do have style(s) ;) (for the record: I just see one style and it is called: Annebeth... seriously I can pick your thumbnail out of the style gallery any day)

    xxx

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  84. I totally agree. I like to wear lots of stuff that I think is probably not that flattering, but makes me happy. In that vein, I like being asked my opinion, but don't think it's nice to tell someone something's not flattering unless they are asking for my advice. Even though people do pay me for my advice, and my blog is attached to my business,I don't like to do "what NOT to do" lists, and try to be as positive as possible. Because it is all subjective, and I think everyone should be able to wear what they like!

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