cardigan, boyfriend jeans, longsleeve: H&M - boots: Sacha - necklace: Forever21 - belt: boyfriend's
The debut of one of my favorite new pieces: this pair of boyfriend jeans! You might remember I put them on my sales wishlist a while ago, and I just couldn't stop thinking about them. Soooo I got them yesterday when I swung by the shops for a short while. These weren't actually on sale but I loved them instantly when I put them on, and they were only 40€ at H&M so I allowed myself to indulge. I'll show you my other awesome sales buys soon! I posted some cellphone pictures on my facebook, twitter and instagram btw if you're interested, you can find the links in my sidebar to your right, just click the respective icons.
There's something about women in boyfriend jeans that screams "I'm cool and I don't care" to me. Especially when they're not styled TOO glam but more like you're some fauxhemian (lol) that is trying to be a painter and wears her boyfriend's worn in denim and t-shirts for practicality. In a movie, this woman would always be skinny and/or gorgeous in a delicate, misunderstood and slightly alternative way, but that's just a ridiculous cliché so fuck that, anyone can emulate bohemian badassness by wearing boyfriend jeans IF YOU AX ME (and you did, or you wouldn't be reading this blog).
I get so sick of people talking about "difficult" pieces only being flattering on thin people or tall people or perfect people. Guess what: boyfriend jeans AREN'T flattering. They don't show off your butt and they make you look relatively short. Just because we've gotten more used to model-esque women wearing unflattering stuff, doesn't mean it's actually only acceptable on them. It's just clothes for fuck's sake, and since the 80s we ALL know that what is considered flattering one decade (or even year) can look WHACK the next. So the entire notion of "flattering" is a social construct and thus empty and INVALID on a global scale. Why bother caring about a word that changes meaning every five seconds? Besides, most of fashion is about ugly, unflattering stuff anyway, or we'd all be wearing corsets, bodycon dresses and stiletto's 24/7. Wear what you want. Don't feel limited to Joan Holloway garb if you are a curvy (ugh hate that word) girl. You and your body rock, regardless of the rags that cover it.
End of feminist message of the day.
ANYWAY this is me wearing my boyfriend jeans in a very casual outfit for Sunday chilling. What are your thoughts on boyfriend jeans, and unflattering clothing in general? Do you believe in "the rules" of flattering your body type and do you keep them in mind while getting dressed? SO MUCH TO DISCUSS!
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There's something about women in boyfriend jeans that screams "I'm cool and I don't care" to me. Especially when they're not styled TOO glam but more like you're some fauxhemian (lol) that is trying to be a painter and wears her boyfriend's worn in denim and t-shirts for practicality. In a movie, this woman would always be skinny and/or gorgeous in a delicate, misunderstood and slightly alternative way, but that's just a ridiculous cliché so fuck that, anyone can emulate bohemian badassness by wearing boyfriend jeans IF YOU AX ME (and you did, or you wouldn't be reading this blog).
I get so sick of people talking about "difficult" pieces only being flattering on thin people or tall people or perfect people. Guess what: boyfriend jeans AREN'T flattering. They don't show off your butt and they make you look relatively short. Just because we've gotten more used to model-esque women wearing unflattering stuff, doesn't mean it's actually only acceptable on them. It's just clothes for fuck's sake, and since the 80s we ALL know that what is considered flattering one decade (or even year) can look WHACK the next. So the entire notion of "flattering" is a social construct and thus empty and INVALID on a global scale. Why bother caring about a word that changes meaning every five seconds? Besides, most of fashion is about ugly, unflattering stuff anyway, or we'd all be wearing corsets, bodycon dresses and stiletto's 24/7. Wear what you want. Don't feel limited to Joan Holloway garb if you are a curvy (ugh hate that word) girl. You and your body rock, regardless of the rags that cover it.
End of feminist message of the day.
ANYWAY this is me wearing my boyfriend jeans in a very casual outfit for Sunday chilling. What are your thoughts on boyfriend jeans, and unflattering clothing in general? Do you believe in "the rules" of flattering your body type and do you keep them in mind while getting dressed? SO MUCH TO DISCUSS!
PS: shop similar outfits to mine here (LOVE THIS NEW APP):
I really like this outfit! It's casual (boyfriend jeans and the tee) but the pink cardi and those gorgeous ankle boots make it into a whole lot more interesting outfit than if you were wearing a sports sweater and converses! You look beautiful :) x x
ReplyDeleteYou look hot! Goeie foto's en ik heb ook nog staan twijfelen voor die schoenen (toen wel nog niet in solden, nu wel?) :)
ReplyDeleteYou are rocking this look! Possibly my fav yet:-)
ReplyDeleteI love casual, I love your outfit and I'm looking for THE perfect boyfriend jeans too, so I guess I'll have a look at H&M! (Your cardi is quite nice too!) As for the message, amen, my friend! I keep telling my friends and my readers, wear what you want and have fun, that is all that matters! Yes I'm a size 16-18 and I sometimes wear short shorts. So what ? ;-)
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Isa
Au Fil d'Isa
omg YES as if you have to have a pass to wear shorts and not get nasty looks! completely ridiculous. Of course, if you WANT to look super sexy you can go that route, but we don't owe anyone our attractiveness or "flattering" outfits.
ReplyDeleteyes solden! heb ze gekocht toen sacha een actie deed net voor de officiele soldenstart, alles was al afgeprijsd en je kreeg je tweede paar aan halve prijs, dus ik heb deze gekocht voor 25€ (SCORE).
ReplyDeleteA-men. But why hate the word curvy? I think the problem is that it's often used in the wrong context, resulting in some kind of bad connotation. And WOW the 5th pic is absolutely stunning btw! (@.@)
ReplyDeleteIk ben 100% akkoord met jouw mening. Ik draag enorm graag oversized shirts, truien, etc, ook al zouden deze zogezegd niet gaan voor mij. Who effin cares, ik voel me er chill en relaxed ipv opgefokt omdat ik een taille moét tonen en me dus heel de dag niet comfy voel.
ReplyDeleteBoyfriends ftw for sure, maar ik heb de perfecte voor mijzelf nog niet gevonden. Jeans is echt een probleem en in de meeste winkels vind ik de maten/snit echt niet goed genoeg.
Keep up the feminism rants, de eerste reden waarom ik jouw blog lees ;).
LQ
http://lttlqueenie.blogspot.be/
I hate it because it supposes that some people are curvy and others aren't, while even a skeleton would be curvy compared to a straight line. Also, it's CONSTANTLY used as a metaphor for "fatter than generally accepted", really. Like, if the context is models, I would be considered curvy. If the context is celebrities, Kim and Khloe Kardashian are considered curvy. It's more about being bigger than some unspoken norm, and I hate how it actually reaffirms the norm that is being challenged. /End of rant :D
ReplyDeleteyep, jeans zijn moeilijk, wassingen kunnen ZO tegenvallen en fit enzo ook. Ik had deze online al gespot en ze bleken irl echt perfect dus ik heb geluk gehad!
ReplyDeleteU totally look like the painter type of bohemian girl. Such outfits are indeed perfect for a lazy sunday.
ReplyDeleteIk geloof wel in dat sommige kledingstukken minder flaterend zijn voor bepaalde lichamen, maar het gaat meer om de extremen. Maar sommige 'regels' zijn ook zwaar overdreven. Ik zou bv geen skinny jeans mogen dragen, mr enkel bootcut jeans. Fuck da, zeg ik.
binnen het paradigma kloppen de regels inderdaad, maar het paradigma zelf verandert constant. Voor veel mensen is retro sexy pin up kleding bijv "oma achtig" en laat het je ouder lijken, terwijl het volgens anderen flatterend is. Dat is wat ik wil zeggen. En dat je zelf moet kunnen kiezen of je mee wilt doen met dat paradigma of niet, omdat het toch relatief is.
ReplyDeleteMooie outfit! Een goeie boyfriend jeans vinden is echt moeilijk, ik ben ook nog steeds op zoek! En jaaaa draag gewoon wat je wil is ook mijn motto :) xx
ReplyDeleteyay I loved this so much!! I do get quite sick of that "i wish I could wear that but it's not flattering on me" BS, although I do think the oversized cardi w/ the baggy jeans suits you great. flattering most def is a social construct, i remember my coworkers and friends in venezuela asking me why i always wore such baggy clothing.
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supergave outfit !
ReplyDeleteI do believe in some rules for flattering one's body type (as mine is a grade A pain in the ass to dress), but you have a really good point that we've all been conditioned to see that only model-esque women can pull off more silhouette/figure-challenging pieces! I think I shall make a point to toe the line with my own fashion choices this year :D
ReplyDeletethe rules aren't bullshit per se: they work within their own framework. If you accept the frame, the rules are true, is what I'm trying to say. But the frame shifts, so the rules aren't above criticism. And everyone should be able to decide whether or not to care about the rules, since we don't owe anyone our attractiveness. We aren't obligated to look our best! it's hard to realize that sometimes in our appearance obsessed society.
ReplyDeleteLove the jumper
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ReplyDeleteSuper mooie foto's en die boyfriend staat je super goed!!
ReplyDeleteAh mooie outfit! Die cardigan is zo mooi.
ReplyDeleteknalrood ongepast
ReplyDeletex — Nicky Geneva
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I agree, I look back at pictures of myself in outfits I loved and thought were mega-flattering at the time and think 'what the hell was I thinking, and why did no one stop me!'. But some rules do make sense, tight and clingy clothes on a curvy figure are never going to work and you have to accentuate your best parts. But your post has made me think twice about this, why do we care if people find us attractive? Evolutionary psychology would state that we are focused upon attractiveness in order to find a mate, but haven't we evolved past all our actions in life being directed towards sexual reproduction?
ReplyDeleteThanks for giving me food for thought today!
Suzanne xx
Oeh An love the cardigan!
ReplyDeleteKus,
Fleur
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LOVE this! Deze boyfriend jeans is echt heel erg mooi! Ik zoek er al lang naar maar iets voelt nooit goed, als ik langs H&M zou gaan, ga ik op zoek naar deze!
ReplyDeleteEnnuh, ik ga alleen voor flatterend aan de bovenkant, wil daar niet te veel accentueren maar dat lukt ook niet altijd ;-)
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I would wear your outfit, lady! Mooie foto's!
ReplyDeleteEn I get your point, al vind het soms moeilijk om mij erover te zetten iets te dragen dat niet flatterend is :) Heb nu wel twee boyfriend jeans, allebei 'redelijk' flatterend in de mate van het mogelijke! Yay for that :)
volledig mee akkoord! Maar even iets totaal naast te kwestie: Don't know what you did maar u gezicht straalt hier echt. Ik wou commenten " die 2de foto moet je is in close up bekijken! Woow" Maar toen zag ik dat je hier gewoon overal straalt! De 5de foto van vanonder is echt boekjes kwaliteit!
ReplyDelete<3 dankjewelllll! kweenie, ik heb gewoon mijn haar niet gewassen haha, het was echt megavettig stiekem :D
ReplyDeletevoor jou is dat ook anders omdat je effectief objectieve, materiele redenen hebt om altijd "je beste beentje" voor te zetten wat je uiterlijk betreft. Maar mensen die geen model zijn en zich toch verplicht voelen om altijd zo "mooi" mogelijk te zijn moeten echt hun mind free-en! :D
ReplyDeleteI think that we are all being brainwashed into thinking we should always always keep the other sex in mind while getting dressed (yeay patriarchy), whether we're talking about our sexy sort of dressing in western society or more conservative dressing in more religious societies. It's always about the guys. And that's ridiculous, because we clearly can have several different priorities while getting dressed - which should be allowed and above all, accepted!
ReplyDeleteMost of us know you aren't obligated to look sexy and hot 24/7, but you shouldn't even have to feel like you should look pretty all the time. It's not something you HAVE to do. You can choose to, and that's great, but you shouldn't be shunned just because you choose not to. Clothing that's too tight probably isn't very flattering on people of any shape, but still! If you want to wear that shiz, by all means: do. And you shouldn't be considered a slob or a loser because you chose to wear clothes that don't fit. Maybe you just don't care that much about your garments. And that's OK. Everyone's different. I'm trying to free people's minds! :D
Hahah wel megavettig haar staat je goed! ;) Je ziet er ook gewoon gelukkig uit! Ook dat staat je goed ;) :D
ReplyDeletethe forth one is my ABSOLUTE favorite picture of you. love the vibe, the look in your eyes, your serenity and maybe a pinch of a vintage photo vibe! i LOVE LOVE LOVE it
ReplyDeletethank you! <3
ReplyDeleteIk moest direct aan u denken toen ik deze blog tegenkwam (misschien ken je hem al): http://www.nearsightedowl.com/ Vooral met haar laatste post :D
ReplyDeleteIk weet nog die keer dat ik een BF jeans van Wrangler had in het middelbaar. Iedereen lachte er mee! Kwam laatst dat ene meisje weer tegen, met een boyfriend jeans aan. BOOYAH! Klein gevoel van overwinning. Klein beetje maar.
ReplyDeleteIk heb dit najaar een nieuwe gekocht, maar omdat ik geen enkel laarsjs heb kan ik hem nu niet zo goed dragen. Jammer, Want dat ding is uuuhmazing! De jouwe is nog meer baggy dan de mijne, hij is eigenlijk een beetje te strak aan, dus de jouw zit veel leuker aan! :D
ik heb de mijne expres een maatje groter gekocht zodat ie mooi zou 'hangen'! ik denk trouwens dat ie ook heeel leuk staat met sneakers, brogues of ballerina's, op pinterest kan je veel leuke inspiratiefoto's vinden!
ReplyDeleteOMG, zo mooi! Je weet waarschijnlijk wel dat ik deze outfit ook onmiddellijk zou dragen ;) En over de boyfriend jeans: oké, niet zo flatterend. Maar een boyfriend jeans heeft toch ook wel een soort van 'sexyness', niet? Het is daarom dat de hele blogworld ze denk ik ook draagt... Ik vind wel dat je je een beetje moet kleden naar je lichaamsbouw. Dat doe ik toch althans. Ik vind dat ik nogal brede heupen heb en daarom draag ik ook geen bodycon jurkjes, die accentueren dat alleen maar. Maar ik denk toch dat vooral je uitstraling het verschil maakt. Als je je sexy voelt in een boyfriend jeans, dan straal je dat ook uit. Dat geldt voor elk kledingstuk eigenlijk. Ik voel mij onzeker in een spannende jurk, dus mocht ik dat dragen zou het er écht niet uit zien (doordat ik er mij niet goed in voel). Oké, soit. Einde uitleg ;) Nogmaals: you look gooooood! (die uitstraling hé)
ReplyDeletelol on the 'fauxhemian' word.. LOVE these pictures, you look SO beautiful! even in boyfriend jeans, lol! I love it when you go all feminist, and you can do it wearing whatever you want.
ReplyDeleteTo answer your question, yesss I know which clothes do wonders on me and which others don't.. like, sheath dresses and dresses with natural waist are very flattering on me, while high waisted aren't... Still, one of my absolutely most loved (and worn) dresses is an high waisted! Rules are made to be broken.. And we should wear what we like most.
Boyfriend jeans.. I am not wearing jeans in general that much these days (I'd say years..) BUT this fall I found a perfect pair of boyfriend jeans at my mom's place.. I think they were my brothers', or my.. boyfriend's, lol, and perhaps I took it there for mending a while back, and than forgot everything about it. I will do my best to make it work next spring, since I love its worn, slouchy and cool look, yeay!
Definitely! I love the way you bring in interesting topics on your blog whilst talking about fashion and posting gorgeous photo's (sorry I'm being a bit over complimenty probably - hope it's not creepy)!
ReplyDeleteDie cardigan is zo bangelijk! Ik draag elke jeans die ik wil, maakt mij niet uit dat ik iets bredere billen heb ;-).
ReplyDeleteNaomi
Dress your life.
haha noooo you're sweet, thank you!
ReplyDeleteKAK ik had nog niet gereageerd hiero. Natuurlijk ben ik het helemaal met je eens, ik ben nu echt zover gekomen dat ik alle "regels" aan m'n laars lap en zeg "TOEDELEDOKIE, ik doe lekker wat IK fijn vind" ipv te kijken of mijn Joan Holloway figuur wel netjes geflatteerd wordt met pencilskirt en tailleriemen. En woorden a la "curvy" zijn echt dikke bullshit, je hebt 'r niks aan en het bevestigt inderdaad meer het stereotype ideaalbeeld dan dat het er iets goeds aan doet.
ReplyDeletePrachtige broek, cardi (SCHMIDTY) en laarsjes, de kleur van de longsleeve (SHNIFFLES) past vet mooi bij de kleur van het vestje. Je bent de bestuhhh en een HIEJEETE brok
maar waarom zou dat "moeten" volgens jou, dan? :)
ReplyDeleteik ken em maar al een tijd niet meer gelezen, dankjewel!
ReplyDeleteIk heb er een tijdje een speciaal bord voor gehad ;)
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