After my last post, I'm sharing another day trip with you: an afternoon at the beach with my mom and sis, to continue the tradition we started last year. My description of the day is basically the same with the exception that the sammiches weren't soggy this time around (LIVING, LEARNING), that it was less crowded at the beach and that my sis has since had a bajillion different hairstyles so yeah, her hair has changed as well. Just like mine, BOO imagine how fab these pics would have been with long flowing mermaid locks :( Oh well there's always next year. I'm such an optimist.
And I'm probably the most-bikini-slash-underwear-offshowing-Belgian-blogger out there which might annoy some of you. Rest assured, everytime I share a buttload of serxay pictures with you I go over it in my mind, like "do I really want to share this (yes), do people really want to see this (not sure) and will I regret this later on (probably not)". In the end, my decision is always determined by these points
- I like having pretty pictures of myself online because: vanity
- I haven't always felt so comfortable in my own body and in a way, it feels like a celebration of loving myself to just put these up there and be proud of it
- My body is nice but it isn't a supermodel's body, and I do think it has its merit to see all kinds of body shapes in the media (which my blog is a part of). Because every body has a right to be at the beach, to have fun and to be celebrated any which way its owner feels like. And right now, I feel like immortalizing this day and the way I looked online.
Let's get this party started!
bikini: Forever21 - sunglasses: Ebay
PS: there were these awesome new beach shacks when we visited, really small but really beautiful architecturally. I'd definitely rent one of those for an intimate getaway with the boyfriend!
PPS: I want to add a clear disclaimer. The pictures I show on my blog are the most flattering pictures out of the bunch 99% of the time. Especially when it comes to showing pictures of myself in beachwear, I do think this is very important to note. If we're being honest, most of us cringe when we see unflattering picture upon unflattering picture of ourselves and just sort of accept our bodies as less than ideal, forever shunning photographic proof of our bodily existence to be shared publicly. Let me tell you something that MAY OR MAY NOT SURPRISE YOU: I have those moments as well.
I frown at some pictures of myself, and I choose to share good pictures because I prefer looking at those. But I do find it very important to note that those aren't the baseline of my photogenic-ness. I'm not that photogenic. I have just taken fucking BUTTLOADS of pictures of myself, which means I know which poses and angles work better for me. But that doesn't mean that there are no unflattering pictures of yours truly, or that my body looks typically attractive all day errday. Sometimes (OK all the time when I'm not posing), I look more like this.
A pose that emphasizes my non-sixpack tummy and sort of lanky, gawky physique - which I both accept and don't mind, btw!
And a pose that shows the fact that I have a rather straight waist and not much hippage - one of my maaaajor body frustrations from when I was a teen. I totally see that I'm pretty just the way I am now, but I still wouldn't pick this photo to share on my blog when I have "better" (more clasically pretty/hourglass proportioned) options.
You might feel like I don't have anything to complain about, but just look at it this way: other people will probably look at you and accept you just the way you are, not even taking much note of the flaws that make you self conscious (just like you're doing for me!). Trust me, it's science (the Spotlight Effect). And if they do think you're less worthwhile because of some aspect of your body, screw them haterz. Figuratively speaking of course. Literally speaking totally DON'T fuck them. Hit em where it hurts.
Are you often self conscious when having your picture taken/looking at pictures of yourself? What do you do to cope?